You Are Your Own Soulmate
“Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - rupi kaur
We throw around the word soulmate as if it is the end all to save us from ourselves.
Do you need saving? Or do you just need to learn to love yourself?
The idea of a soulmate transpires thinking someone else could complete us.
When did you walk away from the truth that you are your first true love and soulmate?
I have watched so many scenes unfold for people where that is the furthest thing to grasp. We as a population are often chasing after what we think we want or need always outside of ourselves.
Loving ourselves should be the first thing we do.
Loving ourselves should be a natural occurrence as it is to nourish our bodies every day.
Somewhere early on my journey I began to realize that I was the only one truly looking out for my well-being.
I love to romanticize with the best of them in every romantic movie imaginable, but I only ever walked away feeling empty.
I knew there was more other than waiting for someone else to make me feel whole; to make me feel loved.
Why is it so difficult for us to embrace ourselves as our own soulmate?
The truth is that you have everything you need by tapping within. You simply need to be reminded to cultivate the love within yourself.
I come from the theory that I am the only one who owns my journey and I complete myself. Anyone who comes into my life is a bonus. I never turn away from putting myself first.
I am my own soulmate.
When you begin with being kinder to yourself and showing the same kind of love you have always given to others, it will return and fill you up in all the ways you have felt empty.
It will make you whole.
Instead of depending on others to heal your heart for you, create action on your own. Can you consider that your journey is first and foremost about you? What inspires you? What are your dreams?
We must envision how we can grow into our journey?
This season of being challenged to be your own soul mate, to be your own safe place is going to push you outside of your comfort zones.
Remember those people who walked away from your love? Maybe they are simply reminding you of the roads that lead you back to yourself.
Once you turn away from those who don’t embrace your love, you can then begin to rebuild, adapt, mend and reclaim all the pieces of your heart that you let others hold before you were awakened; before you learned to return the love to its rightful owner.
It all begins and ends with you.
Stop to take a moment to acknowledge all that you have done in your life and celebrate YOU.
Look in the mirror, it was always you.
I love people who wait for no one, the solo travelers, people who go to the beach alone, enjoy a movie alone, appreciate a meal alone.
When was the last time you took yourself out on a date?
Seriously, this is something we all need to practice. This is something I have loved doing since I was young. Do I have anxiety around these activities? Sure, I do. I am human. But I force myself to do them anyway and only benefit in the end.
Life will pass you by if you are always waiting for someone to join you.
I hope you find someone who speaks your language of love, so you don’t have to spend a lifetime translating your spirit. But in the meantime, remember that you are loved by you.
Learn to fall in love with your own potential for living fully.
You are the unconditional love that you yearn for right now.
Create love within yourself, first. The universe is here to aid and guide us on the journey through life, it will never just make things happen. You are the co-creator of your reality.
It has always been you.
Andrea creates, builds, and offers her teachings and hands on life tools based on her journey healing her body image after a 14yr battle and life of trauma. Her vision always is to help others live a full life with the journey they are given.