Boundaries are often mistaken or mislabeled by some as mean, aggressive, standoffish and the list goes on. Boundaries are self-care in the best form. If we don't set boundaries, then it allows anyone into our mental space. If we don't set boundaries, it is the fastest way for us to get walked over and used.
At one point in my life, I easily said yes to everyone who needed help, whether it be friends, church, work, or strangers. I wanted to be liked. I was the helper. I believed it was being a good person. When I stepped back exhausted, feeling more alone at times than connected to myself or others, I realized there was a problem.
Boundaries are a healthy way to balance your life, your emotions, your energy, and your relationships. Some people feed off those they know don't have boundaries and use them until they are spent. When you set boundaries, not only are you taking care of your well-being; but you are helping others learn from your example. You can do good in the world and set boundaries. You can be a good person and live by your boundaries.
Andrea creates, builds, and offers her teachings and hands on life tools based on her journey healing her body image after a 14yr battle and life of trauma. Her vision always is to help others live a full life with the journey they are given.